He was sorry for saying that he wasn’t in love. It was as if we had never been apart. Join us for this Spring Foraging And Wild Medicine Workshop where we’ll be gathering and…, Copyright © 2020 - All Right Reserved - thelifeadventure.co. I stayed with him for a week. And I mean, really feel it. Why wouldn’t you want a fulfilled life? One bitterly cold winter day, I felt desperate. take a moment to really appreciate this gift we call life, Two discounted early bird tickets are still available today, 10 Quotes for Letting Go of “How Life Should Be”, Asking the Right Questions is the Answer: 10 Things We Forget About Our Own Ignorance, How to Begin Again After an Unexpected Ending, 3 Ways to Break Through When You’re Burning Out and Ready for a Change, 1 Tiny Yet Hard Step You Need to Take for Yourself, “I recently met a super wealthy and influential businessman at a corporate conference—the man has a net worth of over a hundred million dollars. It helps you make sense of the emotion; you feel it, yet you’re able to distance yourself from it, too. ‘I’ve accomplished so much recently,’ she said. SHARE TWEET EMAIL. No matter how many dates Mike goes on, he will never find the right woman. Living on the surface of our emotions, only serves to increase the time they remain with us. He apologized for not treating me well. When I started to make time for myself and stopped pushing down on what my mind craved, I found meaning and became more fulfilled in my life. The journey from fearful to productive started from within me. It was at my lowest point that something absolutely shifted. Or was it just easy to say that now that I was unavailable? When I first fell and damaged my knee, I must say, I dealt with it rather well at the time, giving myself a really big pat on the back for being so accepting of the damage and the consequences. I knew that I didn’t want to live the rest of my life the way I had been and so that fear motivated me to change. Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. We try very hard to avoid being hurt again. The brutal assault left the 24-year-old up and coming model/TV personality disfigured and fighting for life. Then I asked why I was fearful of that. I know I haven’t been the brightest smile in your life, and I know we’ve even exchanged rude remarks a few times over the years, but your smile and generally hospitable service have sincerely given me something to look forward to every morning since my wife passed away. And as we hugged each other, and cried, we acknowledged how irrelevant that boy is now.”, “I am a 27-year-old mom to four beautiful children. It’s a conversation I’ve been avoiding for over a month, as I’ve struggled with the doubts and regrets of not being able to provide a financially stable household for us. Was it possible God loved me? When we approached the receptionist, her face reflected the same fear I felt. But holding onto these emotions takes an enormous amount of energy, negative energy. I must admit, I’ve never paid much attention to people on crutches until now. He was eager to have a family, as he loves children and has always seen himself as a family man. Sometimes I hyperventilated the whole way, but I went. I saw how everything from dating the wrong type, to being reluctant to truly commit and settle down, all came from one fear or another. It’s a sad story, but I think there is a lesson in here for all of us. It’s a sad story, but I think there is a lesson in here for all of us. As I lay sobbing on my bedroom floor, reeling from what my surgeon had told me the evening before, I doubted in those moments that I’d ever make it through the long road ahead. The brutal assault left the 24-year-old up and coming model/TV personality disfigured and fighting for life. I also set goals. For Mike, it had been the final test. Anyone can change right? More tips and stories to help you grow your comfort zone can be found @detoursandshortcuts on Facebook, My goal with this simple letter is to present you by way of email. Mike, an only child, was caught in the middle. By continuing to browse the site, you agree to this use. What we really fear then is the loss of the known, the predictable and the obvious. Embraced the fear of an anxious life to use it to motivate me, Started to educate myself in what I’d always wanted to learn about. Yes, I had him on the day I turned 16. It gives you something to aim for, something in the future to get excited about but also gives you a long term feeling of productivity. I overcame my fear of a life of anxiety by doubling down on productive activities. I wanted to say thank you. And this has the opposite effect to the one you most desire. Finally, it all made sense to me. With tears sliding down her cheeks, she put her arms around me and said, “Oh, Jan, I always knew you were one of God’s special kids. It’s about learning to trust. We were both excited about our first date and it was an instant success. What’s wrong? Is this the one?….. Raise your hand if you have asked yourself questions like these. Since our mind is not able to produce anything that is totally unknown thus we can only relate to the possibility of loss of the known. Overcoming Fear. I don’t know about you, but I make excuses for what I’m feeling. Most children, left to their own devices, shout and cry as a way of expressing their emotions. Yes, we have responsibilities however when I remembered back to my childhood self, I didn’t have the same levels of fear that I ended up having in my early teens. But I was twenty-four years old, and I wanted to live. Mike believed it would be more sensible to go for “the girl next door”. It seemed impossible to me that I could ever change, mainly because anxious thoughts were all I had ever known. I was going to carve out the life I wanted because I knew that no-one could change my life but me. Can he commit to me? We wished each other some Merry Christmases and Happy Birthdays, but we didn’t meet again for a couple of years. Marilyn’s family had been chosen Family of the Year by the Lubbock Avalanche-Journal recently, and the room was filled with loving touches and photographs. And the answer came — that I would no longer be able to do the sports I loved, or go on adventures, do any kind of activity. Facing the Fear of Loosing the Known . You’ve got to read it to believe it! But today I took him to the park to celebrate our birthdays. These stories might interest an avid reader, or might be suitable short stories for middle school kids. The maid ushered me into a lovely home that smelled of oranges and cinnamon. I didn’t know how I’d change the way I was but I knew there must be a way. I’ll look back on this and remember it as a particularly painful period of my life. I’m going through a really bad time, there’s no doubt about it. Short Story of FEAR. Justine Clement. Only you can do that. I saw how I had often been running away myself, just like Mike. I saw how I had often been running away myself, just like Mike. If only we take the time to listen. There’s so much more to it though, join me here to learn more about my journey from anxious to recovered. I started to learn that most people are afraid of being judged by others and so they never really try for what they really want. To have a love affair with unpredictable and unexpected. But where else could I go? December 11, 2017 at 1:31 pm. I know this isn’t of the end of my emotional roller coaster. ... his fear, his humilliation and helplessness, had fallen away. Am I good enough? It made me smile because my total net worth is probably only as much as this man’s last paycheck, but I’ve made it to everything, and my two children always smile and wave to me in the stands during practice and on game days.”, “Today is the 14th day in a row that my 87-year-old nursing home patient’s granddaughter has come to visit him. Too much as it happens, and I had a second fall, which turned out to be much worse, both physically and mentally, than the first. Our meeting shook me up, but I had a different life now. God cared, or so I had been told. I called and asked if I could talk to her about school-related things. He started out young, enthusiastic, but too fearful. But all my senses were focused on the need to breathe, which was harder and harder and drained my energy. My ultimate fear was living a life of anxiety and depression. Your days of independence are on hold and you enter into a phase of life where vulnerability is the norm. And I am turning 76-years-old tomorrow.”, “This morning one of my regular customers, a really grumpy elderly man who has been eating in our diner every morning for the better part of five years, left me $1,000 in cash for his $7 breakfast. He was scared that I would leave again as quickly as I had appeared. May the rest of your life be magical.’”, “I sat down with my two daughters, ages six and eight, this afternoon to explain to them that we have to move out of our four-bedroom house and into a two-bedroom apartment for a year or two until I can find another job and build our savings back up. I care about Mike and therefore, seeing all of this up close made me infinitely sad. You may recall a time of ever feeling like this, too? And that’s exactly what happened to me today. Jackie says. I saw how fear is always there setting our expectations and our beliefs — in life and in love. But she's come a long way over the years. Remembering what Mike had said two years earlier, thoughts were bouncing around in my head.